Today would have been my mum's 64th birthday. Unfortunatley she passed away 11th December 2007. She was always a healthy person, hardly ever caught a cold. In August 2007 that all drastically changed. My mum started complaining of pains in her side, loss of apetite and losing weight. In October 2007 she was diagnosed with secondary liver cancer and was very very aggressive. They couldn't do anything for her accept keep her comfortable with morphine. In the last week she was alive she was able to come home and myself and her 3 sisters cared for her. I still have to go through her clothes but I still find it very hard to do. Maybe I'll get strength to do it sometime soon. We will go out somewhere for lunch later with the kids and my dad to take our minds off it for awhile. I don't think I'll go to her grave as that is also something I find very hard.
Well happy birthday mum hope you have a lovely day wherever you are.
Just a quick update - The day wasn't as bad as I thought it would be. We all went to Killarney and had lunch there in a fab place called Mac's. Then we went to a craft shop that opened a few months ago and I did a bit of retail therapy. My dad was in good form and the kids kept us occupied. The sun also decided to come out today which helped lighten the mood. I didn't go to the grave but yesterday my DH bought gorgeous flowers and put them on her grave for me. I know my mum will understand as she knew I was never one for visiting graves and she was a bit the same as well. So all in all it didn't turn out too bad. My dad bought us a digital photoframe for our anniversary so I will upload some photos of mum on there in the next few days.
Michele, my thoughts are with you today. I know how hard it is for you and I too find it hard to visit my Dad's grave. Just do what ever you find easiest - she knows you haven't forgotten her and she will be with you today to help you through it. I am sure she is very proud of you.
ReplyDeleteTake Care Michele.
I don't know what to say. My thoughts are with you and I hope you at least enjoy the happy memories that you have today and manage to cope with the sad ones.
ReplyDeleteOh Michele, I was so sad to read your post on your mum. I can't begin to imagine how difficult it has been for you hun.
ReplyDeletehugs Bev x
My thoughts to0 are with you Michele. My father died over 20 years in July (heart attack) and I still miss him. I'm not very good at visiting his grave either ...but maybe that is because he still lives...in my heart!..Take care...it does get easier...Hugs, Ila
ReplyDeleteSorry to hear of your mom's passing. Strangely, although it was back in Jan 2001, my mom died of the same thing also aged 63.
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